Have you ever felt overwhelmed or out of balance? Is there a struggle within that pulls you too much or too little in one direction or the other? How do we create balance in life and love relationships?
Creating balance in life and love relationships first requires an awareness of the times and seasons that exist. Ecclesiastes 3:18 gives us some of the contrast that we may experience from time to time. It tells us that there is an appointed time for everything. Timing is critical to achieving balance. How we use our time will determine effectiveness and efficiency. We want to do the right things at the right time and achieve the right results.
Mastering this means making the right decisions and choices. These decisions span from what we do, how we do it and with whom. Decision making should be comprehensive, exploring the what, when, where, who, how and why of each decision. Our possibilities are endless but can be tailored and summarized as we zero in on each of these elements of a story guideline.
When writing our life stories we must be reminded of what exist before and do constant reviews and stock taking. Jeremiah the prophet in the book of Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. As we set out to achieve balance we must be aware of the help that we have. God desires to prosper us and not to harm us, he gives us hope and a future.
Armed with this knowledge we can therefore boldly build balance with God’s plans, we can inquire of and implement those plans in purposeful ways along life’s journey to build a purposeful life. This is a positive step to assist us in creating balance in life and love relationships. It is for our good and our wellbeing, not for our hurt or harm.
As we embrace this fact we must be sure of our position. Every Sargeant will agree that position is the art of gunnery. Where and how we are positioned will determine to a large extent how we are able to stand. Galatians 5:1 tells us to “Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage”. As we engage the battle called life we want to remain on our feet. Whether we slip or slide to the left or right, we want to regain our balance.
To do this we may need at times to communicate our need for help. Others who are grounded may need to support us until we are balanced. Being able to communicate our need when we are out of balance to our partners, is critical to regaining balance. We must be able to identify the correct partners and communicate effectively what we need.
We must also be reminded that we have a present helper as mentioned in Psalm 46:1-2, who is interceding and pleading our cases as Romans 8:34 charges us. Our needs may be tangible physical resources such as food, friendship or finances or spiritual resources such as prayer, praise, exhortation and encouragement. To achieve balance we may also require a rebuke or correction to move past the things that corrupt and corrode us. Prayer is a reset and refresh button. Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us to be anxious for nothing but to pray about everything. This is necessary to create and maintain balance in our lives and our love relationships. It is the balancing act and hallmark of our lives.
As we set out on a journey of creating balance in life and our love relationships we must
- be aware of the times and seasons and do what is necessary at the right time,
- make right decisions and choices,
3. write our life stories and do reviews and stock taking
4. Inquire in God’s word about His plans and implement them to create purpose in our lives
5. Be sure of our position
6. Communicate our need for help
7. Know that we have an intercessor, Jesus Christ and we too can join Him by hitting the prayer reset button. He is already pleading cases on our behalf.
Whatever has caused the imbalance in our lives can be corrected using the 7 steps to creating balance in our lives and love relationships. Be an encourager, encourage someone who may seem out of balance.
