MONEY IN RELATION
SHIPS
Relationships and Money seem to always be at conflict one with another. The two seem not to be able to work hand in hand as a true partnership should. How would you describe the money aspect of your relationship? Is there openness and transparency about finances? Is there a common pool for income and expenditure? Are you residing in the same space, but living separate and divorced lifestyles as it relates to finances?
I get very surprised when a woman does not know how much her husband or partner earns. She does not even know or care where he gets his money from so long as he provides. In some instances, the woman came to know the truth when her husband was in jail due to fraud.
In this time and age, we still have men who believe they should not account for ‘their’ hard-earned money. Leave alone explaining the source of ‘their’ income. But while some of these arrangements ‘work,’ women in such marriages or relationships are not equal partners. These sorts of men don’t know that marriage is shared power that demand 100% accountability on how we spend our time and money.
Equally shocking is that some women believe that he shouldn’t know how much she earns. Her money is personal. His money is family money. Amazingly enough there are many men who have no clue where their wives get their money from. Some even wear clothes, shoes, jewelry and hand bags bought by other men. How in God’s name does another man buy you stuff behind your husband’s back?
No wonder most marriages break when the woman begins to earn more. If a marriage has solid foundations of trust, transparency and accountability, it really doesn’t matter who earns more. The marriage is not only stable but the couples happily support each other in every area of their lives.
Where couples are transparent and accountable to each other, if either partner gets incapacitated, the other partner cushions them financially and emotionally. Without accountability and transparency, if one party gets incapacitated, abuse is inevitable from the other partner.
If the man leads by example and accounts for every coin, if the tables turn and she begins to earn more, she doesn’t feel obliged to account for ‘her’ money, and sooner than later, their union will be headed to the dogs. Too many times men say their money is for projects and her money is for the kitchen and children’s clothes. Five years later, there’s food in the house and the children are clothed but there are no projects.
Share your money and financial relationship lifestyle with us. How can we help you to have a better relationship and avoid squabbles and disputes over money? I have shared some of my observations over the years. I want you to live well and have oneness in all aspects of your relationship. Consider if the habits you practice in the relationship concerning money, helps or hurts the relationship. Share your thoughts. We would love to hear from you.
Feel free to email Mr Ishmael Watkins at ishempowermentministries@gmail.com for more information or to set up a Personal Coaching Session.
